Without knowing it, we all do things that stand in the way of achieving a better level of well-being. Here are some ideas to help turn things around:
Check your defeatist dialogue. Do you tell yourself, “Just this one time won’t hurt?” Or, “I’m just not in the mood for that activity?” If so, talk back to that voice! Try saying, “I can do something that helps rather than holds me back. I’ll reset by taking a shower, stepping outside for fresh air, etc.” Trade overthinking for action!
Identify your usual temptations. For example, do you splurge on an item because it’s on sale, only to suffer when the credit card bills roll in? Learn the difference between your true needs and your wants.
Recognize why you’re putting things off. Do you browse the catalog of classes, but never sign up for one? Feeling overwhelmed may be behind your hesitation. If so, break down the good thing you want to do for yourself into bite-size chunks or make a compromise. For instance, see if you can find a similar short workshop to attend.
Don’t let slip-ups derail you. Try adopting a simple phrase like “Baby steps” or the proverb, “Fall down seven times, get up eight.” It can remind you to not give up hope, that you’re headed in the right direction, and that small successes build on each other!
Get out of your comfort zone! Sticking strictly with what’s familiar can inhibit your growth and vitality. On the other hand, stretching yourself even in small everyday ways can help you gain confidence and feel more in control and empowered. So go ahead, try that exotic dish, take the scenic route, or chat up someone new at a gathering. The more you venture, the more you gain!
Spend less time with naysayers and more time with upbeat people. Hang out with those who cheer you on when your nagging doubts or fears about staying the course are holding you back.